Am I datable?


A Single Woman's Journey in How to Meet Guys

I think I’m decent catch. I’m not going to say I’m a great catch, because let’s be real, great catches only exist in the movies because they’re all fictional characters like my favorite Jake Ryan. So why haven’t I been on a date in like forever?

I’ve had several friends meet their partners on dating sites, so I thought this would be an easy method in how to meet guys.  For ten days I decided to swiped “yes” to 10 guys everyday on OkCupid and Tinder to see if I could score a date. I liked guys who I thought were my McDreamy, others who were just alright and some that were for the sake of my experiment to see what would happen. So what did happen? Not a dang thing! I couldn’t even get a booty call out of Tinder. Seriously, my dating life or lack there of was a joke.

I began to wonder, “Do I not have the qualities men want in a woman?” Yikes, that’s a freaking scary thought. So where does a single girl in San Francisco go for dating advice on how to meet guys? She goes to the all knowledgeable, also known as Google. After my extensive Google search that included reading 20+ articles, I determined the top qualities men want in a woman are:

  • Sense of Humor
  • Independence/Life of Her Own
    Black Playa Barbie Burning Man-how-to-meet-guys

    Me at Burning Man 2014

  • Confidence
  • Intelligence
  • Spontaneity
  • Sense of Adventure
  • Happiness
  • Emotional Maturity
  • Sensuality

I am totally all of those things (in my mind), so what am I doing wrong? I’m college educated, witty (again, in my mind), and a world traveler. Heck, I can even cook and well!

And though I may be slightly bougie at times, I am adventurous and open to getting out of my comfort zone. I mean seriously, if I can go to Burning Man solo with no camping experience that should prove that I’m game for almost anything. Yet, I’m still dateless in San Francisco.

I’d totally get my current situation if I were one of those women desperate to get married and have babies. But that’s not me. I’m not on any timetable to meet my life partner in crime or have kids. I am, however, a strong believer in fate and that everything will happen whenever the universe is ready for it to happen. This clearly is a side effect from watching too many romantic comedies. That said, watching House of Cards solo is getting real old. Plus mamma could really use some umm…action.

So screw fate for the time being as I now realize it’s time to be proactive about my dating life.

The Plan

For the next three months, I am going to proactively try to go on as many dates as possible and we’ll see what happens. But how am I going to go from dateless in San Francisco to a serial dater?

  1. Attend at least one social event per a week. This includes meet-ups, networking events, and festivals and not clubs or bars. It’s not like I’m going to meet McHottie or McDreamy from my couch.
  2. Get friends to set me up. I’m a bit nervous about this one, but how bad can it really be to be set up?
  3. Be more active on dating sites like Happn, Meld, and OkCupid. Going with the philosophy you have to be in it, to win it (or something like that).

Now if you happen to be an eligible bachelor and are interested, by all means please send me an email. If you know of a guy that you think may be a good fit, send me an email. What I am basically saying is that it takes a village to get me a date. Ok, maybe just a few prayers and a little bit of fate.

Wish me luck!


An eclectic, world traveling sista from San Francisco expressing 'Rogue-Thoughts' on food, travel, music, fashion and living an authentic life unapologetically.


  • Reply April 23, 2015


    Good luck Danielle!!

    • Reply April 23, 2015

      Danielle D. Washington

      Thanks Lenina for the support!

  • Reply April 23, 2015

    Mia Sharkey

    You are totally datable! Any guy out there who is looking for a “great catch” is a fool to not date you! Can’t wait to hear all about the next 3 months 🙂

    • Reply April 23, 2015

      Danielle D. Washington

      Mia I adore you!! I’m curious to see what happens too.

  • Reply April 23, 2015


    Interesting post. Ditto. It would be great to follow up after meeting you near the ashes of the Temple… I’ll send you an email. Deal? 🙂 M in SAN

    • Reply April 23, 2015

      Danielle D. Washington

      Burning Man definitely did change my perceptions so it will be interesting to see how it changes my dating habits. Would love catch up too!

      • Reply April 23, 2015


        sounds like a plan. 🙂

  • Reply April 30, 2015


    How’s your plan going so far? Meet anybody interesting yet?

    • Reply May 1, 2015

      Danielle D. Washington

      I’m not a dating machine yet, but I did go on my first set up ever. Thanks for checking in!

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